The Year of the Ass: Stephen Fowler

Photo: Orin_Opiglot on Flickr

Photo: Orin_Opiglot on Flickr

Tonight’s episode of Wife Swap leads me to believe the Chinese New Year the world just celebrated rung in the Year of the Ass.

Now, I rarely watch TV. When I do, though, I like to watch trashy shows. It’s a guilty pleasure of mine. I watch American Idol auditions and family-based reality garbage like Nanny 911 (is that even still on?) and, yes, even Wife Swap.

Tonight’s Wife Swap ‘star’, Mr. Stephen Fowler – CFO/VP Business Development at Sunlink Corporation – was likely San Francisco’s most obnoxious resident ever, and one of the rudest human beings I have ever seen in action.

Several pages of tweets confirmed I’m not alone here…

Here’s a quick background on his family:

Stephens-Fowler family from Northern California consider themselves “citizens of the world.” They strive for excellence in both mind and body. Life coach and certified weight-loss hypnotherapist Rene (43) and British-born environmental entrepreneur Stephen (49) raise their children, Juliette (11) and James (8), to be both health and environmentally conscious. With a diet of strictly organic food and weekends spent doing “family fitness activities,” the kids admit they can’t remember the last time they had a French fry. Domestics are taken care of by a housekeeper, as that is regarded as a necessity in the Stephens-Fowler set. In order to ensure acceptance to an Ivy League school, they push their kids to excel in highbrow activities such as music, fencing and speaking foreign languages. Both children attend a bilingual school and have already visited over 12 countries. [thefutoncritic.com]

This guy may have an IQ of 158, but boy is he lacking in basic social graces. Some guy was so irate during the show he posted this listing on Craigslist:

wifeswap_craigslist

Well, here you go dude… someone tracked down his home address.

I actually felt badly for his wife, Rene. It is quite obvious the only reason this family would participate in such a show was for her self-promotion. It’s a shame how it worked out, really, because she looks like she’s probably good at what she does. Too bad she is so influenced by someone so totally removed from reality. My heart was aching for her because even though she’s deluded herself into thinking that being overworked and overstressed is good for you as long as your body is healthy (even if her children are neglected), I could tell she was ashamed at what a jerk her husband was being at the table meeting at the end of the show. I can only imagine how mortified she was after seeing his absolutely inhumane treatment of the ‘swapped wife’ during the show.

What I felt for them, however, paled in comparison to how heartbroken I was for the other woman. I’m sure the good does not outweigh the bad from this experience. No amount of money or compensation can make up for the treatment she received.

I hope that by watching the show he realizes what an ass he is. Maybe something good can come of it.

I doubt it though.

In Over My Head

As you may have noticed, if you’re a regular visitor to my blog, a few things have changed. I have moved to my own server and am trying to get the hang of this self-hosted business.

I had to contact my host – BlueFur – this evening to say that I couldn’t get in to my cPanel. Customer service was good and fast, and I’m really grateful. I did, however, end up feeling a little foolish:

This IP address was listed in the server’s firewall block list due to 10 repeated failed FTP logins. I have removed this block, and you should now be able to access the server without any issue. However, please ensure that you are entering the username and password correctly when entering the FTP service. If you have forgotten your password, please let us know so we can assist you with resetting it.

Yes, Michelle… well done. You’re a pro!

Anyway… it is time to take this next step. In addition to this blog, which is basically my test blog, I have 4 other wordpress.com blogs that I will be moving out of wordpress.com over the next little while once I’ve figured out the customization.

In the meantime, you get to look at the basic “Thematic” theme, which is currently bare bones off the shelf.

Enjoy!

The Battle of the Bulge

Hi, my name is Michelle, and I’m overweight. I can’t keep blaming on my pregnancy anymore; mini-man will be 3 in March. Photos from Mexico scared me… or is it scarred me?

Anyway… the time is now.

My Weight Loss Story

michelle-thinI put on weight from when I was about 8 or 9 years old when I was abused. And while that situation is long dealt with and forgiven, what remained was an insecurity and a compulsion that warped me just a little. I first joined Weight Watchers on the advice of my parents at the age of 12 when I weighed roughly 150 lbs at about 5’0″ to put a little perspective to it. That didn’t do a thing, though. I was 12 for goodness sake.

I never ended up doing anything about it until 2002, when I was 27 years old. I’m not sure what clicked, but I maxed out at 215 lbs and finally decided I was done with it. What followed was a full year of Weight Watchers, added to the running and kickboxing training I was already doing, resulting in a 60 lb weight loss.

Before Weight Watchers I was working out a lot – I did kickboxing at least 3-4 times a week and ran here and there, did some yoga, snowboarding in the winter… but I also ate. A lot, apparently. Too much, even for my high level of activity. What was really great about Weight Watchers was that it really taught me just how much food is normal. I seemed to have misplaced that perspective… or maybe never had it to begin with.

My Weight Gain Story

41wksI kept the weight off until I got pregnant in the summer of 2005. I started gaining weight right from the beginning of my pregnancy. I think (or maybe try and justify it?) it was from being really lean when I got pregnant; my body fat % was about 16-18% and for a woman that’s lean. Even at work people were speculating that at over 150 lbs I was anorexic. But by the time I was 3 months pregnant I’d already put on about 15 lbs. Then I had to quit kickboxing when I was 5 months because of the anaerobic nature of it – my doctor was concerned baby wasn’t getting enough oxygen.

So then I sat on my couch for 6 months. Probem is I kept eating the same.

I tried replacing my beloved sport with walking or water aerobics, but it just wasn’t the same. I never found that thing I liked enough. I weighed 232 lbs the morning I went to the hospital for my son’s birth; this is a pic I took that morning. That’s a total gain of nearly 70 lbs.

Anyone who has a baby will tell you it’s the fastest weight loss you’ll ever experience. I lost 25 lbs in 3 days… then another 10 within 2 weeks. And then nothing. WHAT?! So there I was left with an extra 35 lbs again.

And now, I find myself with a hair over 40 lbs I need to lose again.

My New Weight Loss Commitment

Now, I don’t have kickboxing to use anymore and have a 3 year old at home I have to be around for, so workout time is way more challenging to come by. My husband’s jobs are unpredictable and take him out of town sometimes for weeks at a time. But I’m determined to do it again. My head is in the right place now and I’m ready. And in the same way I recruited my friends on a Facebook Group to support my efforts to quit smoking, I’m going to use this public blog to prove my commitment.

Here’s my photo inspiration: My wedding day. If you’ve seen me lately, you know…

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This time the plan is much more simple, and probably more challenging but I will make it work: Weight Watchers Online and my Wii Fit. That’s it.

Now watch me shrink.

A Cancun Sunrise

You know when you have a moment that seems to suspend in time… like a first kiss or a look at someone you haven’t seen in what feels like eternity? It was like that.

It was like a special moment in time, carved out just for me and my family. We had the opportunity to be up before sun-up the other morning in Cancun to catch the first moment of sunlight over the horizon.

cancun-sunrise-before

And the moment the sun peaked over the horizon…

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And within a couple of seconds the sun was greeting us with a smile.

cancun-sunrise-light

What was particularly touching for me was that the evening prior mini-man had the opportunity to look out just at the right time to see the sun drop down below the horizon on the other side. The whole moment only lasted a couple of minutes before the entire sun was above the horizon.

cancun-sunrise-full

Anyway, it might not seem so special, but to me it was like one of those moments that God arranged just for me to experience. Those are the moments that remind me just how special this life is.

Have you ever had a moment like that?

I [heart] Fridays: Fun Finds

lepiaf.geo on Flickr

Photo: lepiaf.geo on Flickr

Well, this week I am lounging in Cancun, and this post is all that’s left of me in the real world. I did, however, want to make sure that I share a funny while I’m away…

I got this email forward from my mother in law. I am not normally a fan of email forwards, but I did find this one really funny. As it’s a forward I don’t know where it came from, nor to I know who these images belong to. If they’re yours, I’m sorry. Let me know and I’ll link it up.

If they’re not yours… enjoy!

25 Interesting things you find out from boys

  1. A king size waterbed holds enough water to fill a 2000 sq. ft. house 4 inches deep.
  2. If you spray hair spray on dust bunnies and run over them with roller blades, they can ignite.
  3. A 3-year old Boy’s voice is louder than 200 adults in a crowded restaurant.
  4. If you hook a dog leash over a ceiling fan, the motor is not strong enough to rotate a 42 pound Boy wearing Batman underwear and a Superman cape. It is strong enough, however, if tied to a paint can, to spread paint on all four walls of a 20×20 ft. room.
  5. You should not throw baseballs up when the ceiling fan is on. When using a ceiling fan as a bat, you have to throw the ball up a few times before you get a hit. A ceiling fan can hit a baseball a long way.
  6. The glass in windows (even double-pane) doesn’t stop a baseball hit by a ceiling fan.
  7. When you hear the toilet flush and the words ‘uh oh’, it’s already too late.
  8. Brake fluid mixed with Clorox makes smoke, and lots of it.
  9. A six-year old Boy can start a fire with a flint rock even though a 36- year old Man says they can only do it in the movies.
  10. Certain Lego’s will pass through the digestive tract of a 4-year old Boy.
  11. Play dough and microwave should not be used in the same sentence.
  12. Super glue is forever.
  13. No matter how much Jell-O you put in a swimming pool you still can’t walk on water.
  14. Pool filters do not like Jell-O.
  15. VCR’s do not eject ‘PB & J’ sandwiches even though TV commercials show they do.
  16. Garbage bags do not make good parachutes.
  17. Marbles in gas tanks make lots of noise when driving.
  18. You probably DO NOT want to know what that odor is.
  19. Always look in the oven before you turn it on; plastic toys do not like ovens.
  20. The fire department in Austin! , TX has a 5-minute response time.
  21. The spin cycle on the washing machine does not make earthworms dizzy.
  22. It will, however, make cats dizzy.
  23. Cats throw up twice their body weight when dizzy.
  24. 80% of Women will pass this on to almost all of their friends, with or without kids.
  25. 80% of Men who read this will try mixing the Clorox and brake fluid.

Now it’s your turn to share

Do you have boys? Know boys? I’d love to add to this list with the funny things boys do and see some links to more pics!

Unplugged

The beach at the resort where I'll be staying

Well, I’m headed out tomorrow for a quick vacation to Cancun, Mexico.

While I don’t have a long time, it will be a good time… even if the weather forecast isn’t looking stellar. It’s warm; so who cares? I’ve got 3 new swimsuits, some cute new Roxy flip flops and my own coffee press (yes, with coffee and demerera sugar… because I’m a total coffee snob).

I’m really stoked about seeing my son enjoy the beach, the water, and some snorkeling. He’s been doing a super job in the pool and I’m so proud of how confident he is in the water. He’s not even 3 yet but can swim underwater with dad down to about 6-8 feet to pick stuff up off the pool floor. He can also snorkel with his water wings on, keeping his face under water for about 3 or 4 minutes before he wants to lift his head up and look around. He’s going to have a blast!

I’m hoping to find a couple of hours to myself to give windsurfing another whirl; I quite enjoyed it last year and did a pretty good job, too, if I do say so myself. I would try and take it up regularly here in Vancouver but I’m just not a fan of being cold.

If we end up with beautiful sunny days, we’re planning to book a day trip to Isla Mujeres on a catamaran. That will be our big exciting day while the rest will be spent on or near the resort.

Best part will be just turning my brain off. Well, okay, not OFF… but stopping all the details from their constant bombarding. I really think the life I live – particularly doing business online, where I have access to far more information than I could EVER process – leads to a very fragmented thought pattern, increased ADD and heightened stress.

While I love what I do, but I’m very much looking forward to a break. So no blogs, tweets or Facebook updates for a week. CYA L8R!

Red Bull Whistler Peak 2 Peak Base Jump

Well thank you to Karl Woll for pointing out this vid to me:

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=56fgfetA4Qo

While it’s cool to watch because, well, it’s a base jumping video… and when is that not cool? It’s not as exciting as it could be. Quite obviously a sanctioned publicity jump by Red Bull with Whistler Blackcomb’s full permission. Is it going to go ‘viral’? Well, I’m writing about it. Will it be a “social media success”? Doubtful. Because it’s not authentic. No one else could repeat it.

What would have been cooler, though, would be to see someone manage to do it on the sly. Like this:

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eP0iSJQLfJ4

And while the Marc Ecko Air Force One tagging event is a fake… it received at least a million views and has been reposted and reposted to YouTube too many times to find all the versions out there.

Welcome Virgin 953 to Vancouver!

Radio is alive and well in Vancouver.

virgin-radio-party-naked-guyI had the opportunity to attend the Virgin 953 launch party last night at the Watermark. Virgin 953 is the former 95 Crave, which was my old favourite Z95.3. You can listen to Virgin 953 streaming live here.

Virgin 953 will continue to feature Nat & Drew in the mornings, and local tech star Buzz Bishop on The Rush from 3-6pm weekdays. The big news is the addition of Ryan Seacrest’s show weekdays from 6-9pm and then again on Sundays at 4pm for the American Top 40.

The party was a good time. Who doesn’t enjoy free drinks and people dressed as quasi-circus-freaks… or better, wearing nothing at all? Note to self: invite naked guy to all parties. Great conversation piece. I especially enjoyed watching women have conversations with him and trying desperately not to look down while chatting. That was good entertainment value right there.

tattoo-artist-JayI got to meet the fabulous Buzz Bishop, whose tweets I love even if we sit on two ends of the political teeter totter. That was a treat. Hi Buzz :) Other party highlights included something about a guy being set on fire and running into the ocean, a tattoo artist doing real tattoos right there at the party… who just happened to be an old friend and the guy who designed and tattooed my arm band (Hi Jay!), a chick in lingerie with an enormous snake and, apparently, another lovely lady in very little providing some additional scenery in the men’s room.

I wasn’t going to go, to be honest. Social situations, particularly when I don’t know a soul there, make me very nervous. And  being in marketing there is no shortage of people who would like to help me find ways to spend my advertising dollars, so sometimes I find going to industry events just sends me home with another list of people trying to sell me stuff.

chick-with-snakeRadio, however, is one medium I seem to have a lingering curiosity about. I still listen to radio. A little. And Virgin is a super cool brand.

While I’m not sold on the value of paid on-air advertising alone, I still think there’s an edginess (is that a word?!) and authenticity to radio that isn’t found elsewhere. Radio still has the benefit of being real people running real shows and talking about real stuff. I know to some, the talking and the shows are the detriment. To others like me, it’s part of the experience and part of what makes radio entertaining.

Sometimes I’ll just listen to a playlist on my computer, but there are times – especially while I’m driving – I like to have the other personalities there. I like the insights and banter; it’s like having someone else in the room. I know the line between advertising and promo gets blurry, but regular radio listeners love and trust the personalities they are loyal to. Their opinions matter. In fact, radio personalities sort of parallel bloggers and social media on many levels.

If a reporter provides raw news and iTunes provides raw music, bloggers provide editorial insight and radio hosts provide musical insight. Truth be told, I’m not cool enough to know what’s trendy, so I need someone to tell me. What would I do without radio?

So while I’m currently not doing any radio advertising, I am curious to see what Virgin is going to do in Vancouver. Maybe there’s room for more radio advertising yet.

I [heart] Fridays: Fun Finds

wasaby on Flickr

Photo: wasaby on Flickr

So this week has been filled with a little craziness. Work has been busy; I’ve been dealing with some injuries; and driving has been rediculous as people went back to work after Snowmageddon. I’ve honestly seen places where I was quite certain someone would die unless something was done about the sidewalks…

Anyway, here are some fun finds of the week to make it all better:

I was commenting on Tuesday about a woman who brought her two sons into a public women’s washroom. The boys were probably 10 and 12 – no joke. I really think she should have saved them the total embarassment they so obviously felt and just went into the mens with them if she was so worried about it.

Anyway, after a quick discussion about it on twitter, the Ask A Urinal site came to my attention, quite by accident. Certainly fitting, though, and definitely funny.

Then one of my bloggers on Grouse Park Sessions posted this hilarious tip on how to deal with fogged up goggles. I can’t explain the many ways this makes me giggle.

My physiotherapy appointments have been funny all on their own, and quite the exercise in humility.

I’ve had a problem with my right hip for some time. It causes pain in my lower back and has been particularly troublesome in the last few weeks. I’m certain it’s from a combination of one-sided activities (8 years of kickboxing plus snowboarding) and running (which is just generally hard on the body) with very little stretching and weight training to speak of. Anyway, the first time I showed up my physiotherapist ended up being a guy I’d gone to high school with… okay, so I’m an adult now and I can deal, right? Not so much. I had to stand in front of him, facing away while he sat with his head at my butt level and his hands on my hips… then what do I have to do? Bend forward and touch my toes. WHAT?! Um… m-kay. It never ceases to surprise me some of the positions we get into that would absolutely NOT be okay if it wasn’t a professional situation. Kind of strange that it’s okay when it’s for the pursuit of a properly functioning body. But things seem to be getting better.

So, uh, would you get a WordPress logo tattooed on you? If you really want to, I’d like to suggest you go with Billy – he’s great, despite the state of his website. Don’t worry, I’m going to fix it soon.

Favourite quote of the week: “click my junk” from Mashable’s FOLLOW FAIL: The top 10 reasons I will not follow you in return on Twitter in reference to auto-DM “thank you for following now click my junk” messages.

Thanks to the very talented Jess Sloss, I came upon this post called Lists That Aren’t Interesting, by Jay Grandin. At first I was wondering why he wrote a list about bowel movements, but it did get funnier from there. And, well, as I’ve said before, my favourite 0ne liner from a movie comes from the monkey in Madagascar, “If you have any poo, fling it now.”

So really, yeah, all my funny stuff I find on Twitter. Twitter got hacked. And phished. And here are 15 Tweets that tell the story from Sarah Jones-Larson.

And last, but certainly not least, the funniest find of the week: Combover for Science!

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k83ECj4mGz0

Oh, but wait, there’s more: Combover Revolution!

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LgdDTc1eh34

Well, that’s it for this week… see you next time!

6 Easy SEO Tips I learned from Dave Taylor

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Back in September I went to Blogworld & New Media Expo 2008 in Las Vegas.

The number one best thing about going to the conference was the connections I made there; I even got to rub shoulders with few blogging/social media/internet rockstars including Chris Brogan, Jason Falls, Darren Rowse, David Alston, Dave Taylor, Steve Hall, Lee Odden, Rohit Bhargava, Gary Vaynerchuk and local superstars Rebecca Bollwitt and Linda Bustos.

The next best thing was some of the useful tips I learned from one of the sessions: Dave Taylor’s “Ten Things You Need to Know About Search Engines & Findability”.

For those unfamiliar with social media and blogging, SEO stands for Search Engine Optimization. In fact, blogging is often considered a great way to market your company website if, in fact, you have a passion and a plan for doing so.

Key takeaways from Dave Taylor’s blogging SEO session:

While Dave’s session focused on 10 things about SEO, the following 6 points stood out to me and are very simple to implement no matter what blog platform you use.

1. Write as often as you can
This tip didn’t come entirely from Dave Taylor’s session; it was addressed by Richard Jalichandra’s Keynote on Technorati’s State of the Blogosphere. The most popular blogs are written to 10 times a day or more. While you don’t need to write multiple times a day for your blog to be effective, you do need to write regularly to keep the search engines pinging your site. The more often Google pings you, the higher up you’re going in the search results for keywords contained within your writing. People will disagree on how often you need to write to produce results; I would suggest a bare minimum is 2-3 times a week if you’re going to bother blogging at all.

2. Write your keywords in to your content
It’s a good idea to be aware of the key words and phrases you want your site to rank for. Make sure you use those words and phrases whenever it is appropriate in your writing. It’s a balancing act between having your blogging sound natural and having it sound like it was written strictly for keyword density, but use your judgement. The more your keywords are located in your writing, the higher you will rank for those words. This is especially important if your goal is to draw traffic and customers to your primary business.

3. Link your keywords rather than meaningless words
This is probably one of the most important things I’ve learned: Link relevant keywords. Search engines read code. They see what has a link and look at the content of that link more closely than the other text within your site. So rather than say, “I found this great article on SEO for blogs on this website,” you should write “I found this great article on SEO for blogs I want to share with you.” In the first example, you will rank for the word “website”; in the second example, you will rank for “great article on SEO for blogs”, which is a way more useful phrase, and one that is much more likely to be searched. No one needs to rank higher for “click here” or “more”. No one.

4. Use header tags to emphasize sub-headings
I didn’t know this one at all. When you use header tags like <h1> and <h2> to highlight important sub titles within your posts, the search engines will also see that text as more important again, in the same way it sees links as important. See above where I titled this list “Key takeaways from Dave Taylor’s blogging SEO session”? That’s an <h2>tag and it sends a signal to the search engine’s little electronic brain centre says “oh this is a heading; this page must be about this topic.” Just simply bolding your headings won’t have the same effect.

5. Optimized photos
Photo file names and titles are also used by search engines. So rather than leaving your file names as whatever they were when they came off your digital camera… “IMG_2008-01-07_001.jpg” for instance, rename it. Name it with relevant keywords that people may search for. Be honest about it. What is the photo displaying? If you’re writing a blog entry on your trip to Disneyland and you take a picture of Mickey Mouse in front of the Disneyland castle, call your photo “mickey-mouse-disneyland-castle.jpg”. If you’re writing a blog entry on a restaurant you visited and you’re including a photo, name the photo “restaurant-name-city-styleoffood-dining.jpg”. Then, your images have their very own chance of getting ranked by Google.

6. Tag your posts
Tag your posts. All blogging software allows you to add relevant tags to your posts. If you’re writing about how to bake an angel food cake, you might tag it with the following keywords: baking, bake a cake, angel-food cake, cake, angel food, baking instructions, cake instructions. Think for a few minutes about what words someone might plug into a search engine if they were looking for exactly what you’re writing about. If you were looking for your post, what would you search for?